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You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.If you’re looking for someone who can cater to you 24/7, a single dad is not a good idea. Simply put, the mother of his child isn’t someone that will disappear anytime soon.She’ll be involved in your guy’s life, if only just for the kids.Many single dads will try to score a happy medium between the two of you.However, there are a lot of single dads out there who can take this overboard and make you a constant #2 in their lives.Here’s what you need to know going in: Dads will probably put their kids before you (and that’s how it should be).
Before you get serious, gauge the baby mama drama level first…
If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.
Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.
Here's what I do know: If I was dating someone, I would NOT be satisfied spending "quality time" with him every other weekend. That would be the only way to truly get to know him and develop a relationship and I don't believe it's different for the parent-child relationship. Here's what I don't want: a crazy ex-wife who makes my life a living hell, kids who resent me for being with their father (and therefore taking time, money and attention away from them), a husband who can't say 'no' because of the guilt he feels for the marriage not working out... And I totally understand that these are in no way a "given" or absolute.
It's probably even more exaggerated because kids (for the most part) yearn for their parents, no matter how crappy they are whereas an adult is more likely to make a decision to turn their attention elsewhere if their needs aren't being met. The only way though to guarantee that those things don't happen is to not marry someone who brings that with them. I had people say that I could be filtering out someone who is "perfect-perfect" for me simply by eliminating the guys with kids. But I don't believe that there is only one person on this planet for me.